Comments on: Finding the ‘meaning’ in the ’something’ http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:45:10 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Susan @ ReadingUpsideDown http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/comment-page-1/#comment-6170 Susan @ ReadingUpsideDown Mon, 18 May 2009 12:33:23 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1418#comment-6170 Thank you so much for this post Karen. I so needed to hear this today. I had a variety of reasons for not sending my children to preschool, even though I can see that there are many positives about children being in a preschool environment. For me, it is a matter of personal choice. The older two (aged 8 and 10) had no problems adjusting to school. The youngest (aged 5) will start school next year. As a full-time SAHM though, I understand those moments when you just wish everyone would find someone else to solve their problems and hold their hands - just for 5 minutes. Numerous perfect sentences have formed in my brain but been drowned out by requests for snacks, assistance or intevention in sibling skirmishes before they could make it onto paper or computer screen. There are days when it is enough to make you tear your hair out in frustration. However, for me the occasional frustration has been more than worth it. I love the experiences that I have been able to share with my children simply because they are with me when things happen. I also love that they are learning, gradually, that sometimes mum is busy and can't always drop everything unless it is an emergency. I want my daughter to grow up knowing that as a wife and mother that she still has value as an independant woman with interests that don't necessarily revolve around her family, as much as her family might inspire her. It's been a busy couple of weeks for me and I have been feeling a little bit sad and sorry for myself today. Thank you for the reminder that there are other mothers out there making sacrifices and hard choices to balance their dreams for themselves with their dreams for their family. Thank you so much for this post Karen. I so needed to hear this today.

I had a variety of reasons for not sending my children to preschool, even though I can see that there are many positives about children being in a preschool environment. For me, it is a matter of personal choice. The older two (aged 8 and 10) had no problems adjusting to school. The youngest (aged 5) will start school next year.

As a full-time SAHM though, I understand those moments when you just wish everyone would find someone else to solve their problems and hold their hands – just for 5 minutes. Numerous perfect sentences have formed in my brain but been drowned out by requests for snacks, assistance or intevention in sibling skirmishes before they could make it onto paper or computer screen. There are days when it is enough to make you tear your hair out in frustration.

However, for me the occasional frustration has been more than worth it. I love the experiences that I have been able to share with my children simply because they are with me when things happen. I also love that they are learning, gradually, that sometimes mum is busy and can’t always drop everything unless it is an emergency. I want my daughter to grow up knowing that as a wife and mother that she still has value as an independant woman with interests that don’t necessarily revolve around her family, as much as her family might inspire her.

It’s been a busy couple of weeks for me and I have been feeling a little bit sad and sorry for myself today. Thank you for the reminder that there are other mothers out there making sacrifices and hard choices to balance their dreams for themselves with their dreams for their family.

]]> By: Big Pumpkin http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/comment-page-1/#comment-6169 Big Pumpkin Mon, 18 May 2009 04:12:39 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1418#comment-6169 Oh, you sure struck a chord there, honey. As long as you're giving her some one-to-one full on attention, you're good to go. I gave my daughter three whole hours yesterday but I usually try to give her at least an hour a day to do whatever it is she wants/likes to do. And then it's Mummy time. Oh, you sure struck a chord there, honey. As long as you’re giving her some one-to-one full on attention, you’re good to go. I gave my daughter three whole hours yesterday but I usually try to give her at least an hour a day to do whatever it is she wants/likes to do. And then it’s Mummy time.

]]> By: familyvalue http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/comment-page-1/#comment-6168 familyvalue Sun, 17 May 2009 14:35:22 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1418#comment-6168 I hear you! I studied my post-grad in Midwifery while my first 3 children were young. I used my in-laws as babysitters then, however, as my family has increased and I commenced work as a midwife 3 nightshifts per fortnight I actually made the decision to put the children into our local creche. The best decision I ever made! The younger children still go there even though I am on another set of maternity leave. It gives me time to do 'my things' for one day a week and 'frees up' my in-laws to committed babysitting. It usually means I spend more quality time with them the rest of the week as I have accomplished most things I need to on that one day. Just a thought....... Also, I agree, motherhood is a very tough job but oh so rewarding at the same time. Hoping you feel better soon! I hear you! I studied my post-grad in Midwifery while my first 3 children were young. I used my in-laws as babysitters then, however, as my family has increased and I commenced work as a midwife 3 nightshifts per fortnight I actually made the decision to put the children into our local creche. The best decision I ever made! The younger children still go there even though I am on another set of maternity leave. It gives me time to do ‘my things’ for one day a week and ‘frees up’ my in-laws to committed babysitting. It usually means I spend more quality time with them the rest of the week as I have accomplished most things I need to on that one day. Just a thought……. Also, I agree, motherhood is a very tough job but oh so rewarding at the same time. Hoping you feel better soon!

]]> By: Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/comment-page-1/#comment-6167 Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo Fri, 15 May 2009 10:37:12 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1418#comment-6167 Moo was never in care. She was either with me, MPS or my mother. I had to put Too into childcare (loooong story) and she thrived there. It also helped her transition into school more smoothly. I wish I had given Moo that opportunity. Even a morning a week can help with their socialisation. Look at it that way. Moo was never in care. She was either with me, MPS or my mother.

I had to put Too into childcare (loooong story) and she thrived there. It also helped her transition into school more smoothly. I wish I had given Moo that opportunity.

Even a morning a week can help with their socialisation. Look at it that way.

]]> By: Stitch Sista http://www.miscmum.com/2009/05/15/finding-the-meaning-in-the-something/comment-page-1/#comment-6166 Stitch Sista Fri, 15 May 2009 05:21:29 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1418#comment-6166 You know, people can pooh pooh motherhood being the toughest job all they like, it doesn't make it less true! You know, people can pooh pooh motherhood being the toughest job all they like, it doesn’t make it less true!

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